Putting yourself first might make any mom feel selfish.
I know this and I am so guilty of it. When I first became a mom, I always felt SO guilty about doing things for myself. It’s embedded in our brain and heart that family comes first. But guess what? You are part of that family and you come first too. This took me some time to grasp, but once I realized it and did things for me, my mental and physical health improved so much. I felt more than just a mom and a wife. I felt like me.
Our kids learn from example
Our babies are sponges! They repeat everything we see and do. Just the other day, I heard my 16 month old daughter say “oOoOoh!” when I gave her some strawberries. And when I turned on the tv to Cocomelon, she said “WoOoOW!”. These are literally my two favorite expressions. My husband laughed at us and it made me feel so proud (lol). It’s just clear evidence that our kids learn from us every day even when we don’t try. Their little personalities, moods and attitudes are a reflection of us. So girl, treat yourself like you know you should.
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Here are some ways that you can implement easy self care habits to your day.
- Read a book. My best friend and I choose a book to read every few months. We go at our own paces and when we’re both done, we discuss the book. This is a good way to keep in touch with friends, do an activity together and not feel rushed (with everything else you have going on in life). I love it. The Kindle Paperwhite is great because you can just throw it in your purse or diaper bag.
- Get a haircut. There’s something about a freshly cut or new colored hair that makes everyone feel brand new.
- Take care of your skin. Wash your face in the morning and at night. Use SPF during the day and moisturize at night. There’s a video where someone puts sunscreen on one side of a slice of bread and toasts it. One side is burnt and the other side is normal! I love that video.
My family uses the Supergoop sunscreen. Your skin will thank you years from now when you consistently use an SPF moisturizer. If you’re really up for it, try adding a toner to your routine. My favorite is from Soko Glam (Then I Met You).
- Put on some makeup and a cute outfit and catch up with a friend. Sometimes a little bit of makeup, your favorite lipstick, your go to perfume and some gold hoops… just makes you feel good! Good conversations with a friend is always refreshing. Take the time and catch up, learn about what they’ve been up to and talk about what’s going on in your life with them.
- Go make up less and enjoy a long walk. I love doing this on a perfect 60-70 degree day. My skin feels amazing and the fresh air boosts my mood instantly. This is a good family activity and a great way to get exercise in.
- Buy yourself some flowers or a houseplant. Did you know houseplants help purify the air in your house too? I just recently became a mama to a fiddle leaf fig. Your local plant nursery, Trader Joes, grocery store or the Home Depot always has good choices of houseplants.
- Go for a jog/run or pump some iron. A great way to get a good work out is interval running. Run at high intensity for 30 seconds, rest for 30 seconds and repeat (20-30 times). It gets your heart rate up and builds your endurance. I like to use the “Seconds” app on my phone as an interval timer.
- Turn off your phone for a little while. Just unplug and immerse in yourself with no distractions. It is so refreshing to enjoy your surroundings without social media notifications and text messages.
- Take a bath and meditate. Use bath salts to help relax your muscles. Take this time to meditate.
- Light your favorite candle. While a bath, reading or doing anything around the house!
- Listen to your “rainy day” playlist. Not sad music, just music that makes YOU feel good. For me, it’s my “rainy day” playlist.
- Drink water. The rule of thumb is half of your bodyweight in ounces at a minimum. But the more the better. Find a cute water bottle and add lemon or other fruits to change it up.
- Try an activity you’ve never done before. Candle making. Painting (follow a Bob Ross tutorial on Netflix). Scrapbooking. Embroidering. Drawing. Baking. There are so many new things you can try out.
- Get a full night of sleep. It does wonders for your energy and mood.
- Organize your junk drawer. A weird one, but a good one. I know they end up getting messy again. There’s just something therapeutic about organizing.
- Donate the clothes you don’t wear anymore. Donate them to a local Goodwill.
- Make a wholesome meal for your family. Try out a new recipe. Spring rolls are my favorite to make for my family because they are delicious, healthy and easy to make.
- Give your kid a big hug. Just breathe them in. Smell them. Listen to their heartbeat and breathing pattern. This makes me so happy every time.
Whether you have a “self care day” (which you totally should) using these ideas.. or take some of these ideas and implement them to your everyday routine, I’m so happy for you!
If you feel “burnout” setting in, if you feel demoralized and exhausted, it is best, for the sake of everyone, to withdraw and restore yourself. – Dalai Lama
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Print it out for your planner, hang it up or just have it handy when you need it.